I learned about this acronym a while ago and didn’t fully grasp until I was faced with the harsh reality of more bad habits forming and people I associated with. Where did this come from? Environment? The people I associated with? My pure lack of motivation? Each played a role and I can only blame myself. What ever you are around you become! If you are the smartest person in your friend group its time to find other intelligence people. Or if all but you are the only employed one in your friends group, you are bound to become unemployed as well. Like attracts like. As so many things I have read and learned about. While working on my goals I found myself spending time with myself and working on my skills I wanted to learn. I soon discovered the people I associate myself with either would support me, or put me down because of the things I would do or ideas I had. This was unnerving.
Questions began to arise within myself. How many friends do I have that truly lift me up and help me when things go south? Do I have friends who encourage me to achieve my goals and do I do the same for them? Does it matter to me if I have a ton of friends or only a few friends? Do my friends have dreams and goals they want to pursue? How am I helping them? How do are these friends making a contribution to our friendship? Am I carrying dead weight by hanging around these friends?
All of these questions came flooding in. They were really hard questions to face. This meant really taking a long hard look at each friendship and evaluating pros and cons. The goal: To continue gaining only quality people. I wanted to surround myself with goal achievers. The past few years I cut out people who have held me back, who don’t encourage me, who don’t wish to move forward in their lives and reach their goals. Though now I have few close friends. I am happier. Less drama and stress. We are all achieving our goals and encouraging each other. Only quality people in my life.
Keep kicking and smiling! – TJ Banski